There is a very weird culture among stay-at-home moms. They are very exclusive, and almost cult-like in my experience. Individually, sure, they are very nice, but as a group, they really disapprove of two sets of people specifically: working moms, and stay-at-home dads. Now I can't speak for working moms and the wrath and disapproval of the stay-at-home mom (you will have to ask my wife about that), but I can give you the true and sad story of the prejudice I experience every day as a stay-at-home dad in a stay-at-home mom's world.
First of all, SAHMs are very suspicious of SAHDs. When a dad walks into a place full of moms, generally he gets a look, as if he is only there in the hopes of seeing one of them breast feeding. Usually the moms do not speak to the dad, and huddle ever closer in their tight circle of disapproval. I don't know if they think I have stolen these children from their mother and am on the run from the police and am hiding at storytime in the local library, or what, but those moms do not want to talk to me.
If I do try and talk to one of the moms, sometimes they ignore me, but usually they make a weird noise, like "hmph" or "yaahrgl," and then slink away, back to join the herd. Sometimes there will be another dad around, and we can exchange knowing glances, like "Moms, right?" and smile and shake our heads. We say hi to each other, but dads are not pack animals like moms. We prefer our solitary roaming lifestyle. Perhaps this is why we will never fully integrate into the mom community, but it would at least be nice to have some level of respect.
The other way you can tell that the moms do not like the dads, is that whenever a child of a dad does something, the moms all kind of look in that direction, waiting for dad to stop the child, and then when he doesn't, cluck disapprovingly and turn away to gossip about it. Like, let's say a child is jumping up and down and laughing maniacally. Us dads think this is pretty funny. Or if a child is climbing on top of an item marked "do not climb." Dads love climbing. If you can somehow climb from the floor to the top of a high bookshelf, dads think that is cool. Moms do not think that is cool. They think that the dads should be locked up and banned from the playground.
It's not just the moms who discriminate against us either. I can't tell you how many times I have taken the kids to the grocery store, or wherever, and the cashier says to my kids "Ooh, you get to hang out with Daddy today? What a special treat!" I generally say, "Yup, just like every other day." No one can believe that a dad home all day with his kids is normal in any way. Mommy must be on vacation. It's probably career day at school. Oh, is today opposite day? I had forgotten.
Now if you are a SAHM, and you think to yourself, well I am personally offended that you think such things about me, let me assure you that this blog is not about you. This blog is about You. You as a group. You as a pack. You as a huddle in the corner of the playroom, frowning at the sketchy dude who just brought in his kids. Look, I get it. Guys like "guy time" as much as you like "girl time." When a group of guys suddenly find a girl in their midst, they are forced to keep the farting and whatnot to a minimum, and it is sometimes annoying. I don't know what you all are doing over there ladies, but I'm sure that having men around is harshing your vibe. For that, I apologize. But it's my story time too.